Things happen in our life to help us in areas we need to clean up. God does us a favor and allows people in our life to irritate us to move us to deal with our stuff, and stop projecting it onto others. We can ask ourselves, “What does God see in this for me?” We can turn to the Lord and say, “Lord, I want to be cleansed of any hooks, where I’m hooking into them. Help me to not run away from the ugly parts, but rather bring them to you.” Ask the Holy Spirit to smooth out the hooks. As we do this, God gives the other person help, so that they get healed. It’s hard to see our sin, when it is exposed in front of us in another person. To be aware of our faults is a grace of God. There’s a redemptive side to working on our stuff. That’s real love to seek the good in others. We can miss an opportunity to grow, when we complain about another. “God, you wouldn’t allow anything to happen, that you didn’t intend to bring good out of it. I want to be in Your will. I’m sorry I made bad choices. Can you help both of us get free so we can live for your glory?” Often, we use other people’s stuff as an excuse not to work on our own. We need to clean up our own dwelling, so God can live in us. We can waste our whole life seeing the faults of others. Pray to get rid of your junk. God can only seek our good.
I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak. (Matthew 12:36)